As you may have guessed I am clearing out my “Draft folder”. I had started these posts but for some reason I never finished. Well since I am quarantined with no sign of being furloughed I will take care of this task.
My dad has been gone for about 15 years now and yet I still find myself reaching for the phone and call him when something is wrong. Or when something is going great. It is a force of habit that I have not been able to break and I don’t think that I want to. Even though I don’t recall his phone number, I still want to call him up.
I still want to call my mom too and she is still alive but no longer with me if you will. I have lost her to Dementia and she no longer remembers me. I want to talk to her and tell her about my health issues. I would love to ask her about her health issues. Just talk about day to day stuff.
It was nothing for us to talk for an hour or more. You automatically knew that an hour would be spent . Now whenever my mom is lucid, I will spend three hours on our conversation. Granted most of the time it is repeated but I would not change it for anything in this world.
But what I miss the most when it comes to both of parents is the laughter. I could get both of them to laugh and they could they bring me to tears. We were serious when needed but we were generally laughing. Humor played a major role in our lives. I truly miss that aspect. Laughter truly is the best medicine.
No matter what age you are, you are NEVER too old for your momma or pops. NEVER!!!
I still sent each one birthday cards, holiday cards, and mothers/fathers day cards. Never missing one. I bought them a gift for said holiday too. I also sent them cards on Easter. This was because of the religious aspect of the holiday. I also called them on them said holidays too.
This was done out of respect. When my dad passed I found a box that containedevery card that I had ever sent him.. If you ever wondered if those cards meant anything to your parent(s)? Ask them if they have a box…? Because you will see things in a different way. However, when you have children of your own and they don’t send you a card you will feel a feeling that is unlike anything you have ever felt.
It doesn’t take much to purchase a $2.00 card ,hell you can even make one!!! Then write something inside of it. Mail it. You are done. Those few minutes of your time will mean the world to your parents. It will make their day.
It would be even better if you were able to call them. Give them a 5 minute phone call. Because if you don’t think that they aren’t sitting on the phone waiting and hoping, you are sadly mistaken. They have dedicated their entire day to watching the phone and making sure that it works.
You will be there one day…
And I hope that you never have to go through that kind of hurt.
Especially when you keep it to yourself because thats what we do as parents. We don’t whine or piss and moan. We hope that our kids realize the oversight on their own…….because they will…